So you have been in an argument for a short or long time and you are fed up. You probably want to sort it out. But heres the big question, “how do I do it?” Well heres my advice. Okay so the first thing is the whole texting. Don’t try and makeup over text. Thats the worst way as something you can say one text can be different to real life. If you want to make you just text them this one message. It has to say, ” I really wanna sort things.” and then wait for a reply. The best way is to talk in person or either by the phone as you want the person to hear the tone of voice you want the to hear the tone you want them to the hear not a text.
When you talk to them you need to practice what you’re going to say otherwise it could go the wrong way and then you could get even worse. I would recommend planning before. When you want to talk to them, start to think what a type of person they are. If they are an open person and will let you tell your side then think how to word the conversation but if they are stubborn then word it differently. Then think about all the possible ways it could go. Good and bad. Then you need to look at things like how you will not take all the blame or make the other person take all the blame. In most arguments you need to consider that you are both wrong and you need to apologies because it will only get worse if you don’t.
Once you have spoken it out, you need to then keep it at a good level. If it’s been a small and short argument then you need to keep up the friendship and not be awkward. But if it is a long argument then you need you need to keep it slow. The it civil friends for a few weeks and then talk more don’t rush as its been a long time and it might seem like you are desperate. My last tip of the blog is that if they don’t want to talk or makeup then don’t make it seem like you are desperate or like you are trying to hard. Leave it a few weeks and then try one more time and if the same leave it. they will warm back a but gradually and then try in maybe a few months. Don’t seem pushy or desperate. There will be updates on this and more blogs on other stories soon. Stay posted babes xo
When your in an argument, people can say stuff to you that you will find offensive and hurtful. These can just be saying a hurtful name and I can go to comments that can make people commit suicide. So heres a question everyone want to know; why do people say these? Well I have an answer for you. If someone is upset or annoyed with someone, they can react in a physical way or verbal way. Where physical bullying is hurtful and can make you bleed, so can verbal bullying. In fact they can make you upset more and more. When you say these, they can ruin a life and this isn’t in some shitty councillor way, this is from experience. This is from someone who has received a comment but I took it well. Some people on the other hand don’t.
When you receive these, you may feel and urge to cry. Don’t let the person to see you upset, don’t let the person win as you don’t want them to. When you receive these don’t listen to them. No matter how hurtful they might be to you. Because the person who said them is just a motherfucker. If someone calls you fat remember thats only one persons opinion compared to many others who have never said that.
So the day comes and say you have been called an ugly fat hore. I have experience of this. Don’t react in a way for them to get even more rude and say something else. And don’t do what the shitty councillors would say, because they are wrong. Just say to them, “Okay think that because I’m quite happy with the way I look and feel” and then walk away from them. Don’t coward over and let them see that you seem like a pussy your not.
Don’t let anything anyone says ruin you or your life because just think, before they said something you were fine about yourself. Just think to yourself three things that make you happy.
If they say something, heres my advice. Take three deep breaths and then spell out the word calm, with everything that makes you calm. Think things that make you calm and each has to be a letter of calm. The first word begins with C the next A the next L and the last M for example: Carmex
now you give it a go. There will be updates on this and more blogs on other stories soon. Stay posted babes xo
This is my first blog so I hope you enjoy the juicy gossip from this story. I used to have a best friend called josh. He was my all time best friend in my year 7. All until the argument. I’m not sure if in other schools but definitely in my school we call arguments beef so I will refer to this word when I talk about arguments. Anyway back onto the story. When I felt like we were drifting I said something. Not to be mean it was actually my hint to become closer with him. but he took it the complete wrong way and started to take it offensively. The first day when I said it we had a little beef on the bus (as we travelled to and from school with some other boys.) After that time we actually made up and we used to call each other bestie all the time and I actually got that so that was good. But then when we got on the bus the next morning he was horrible to me. This time it didn’t resolve and it continued to the end of year 7. He basically bullied me and thats a well bitchy thing to do. He always called me names and always called me things like fat and ugly. He even punched me a few times and a boy should never punch a girl and especially in a part of my shoulder with I had a problem with at the time. Then in the summer holiday the cunt decided to text me going lets just be friends. Even though I tried to makeup with him many times and I shouldn’t have given him a second chance I did. He was told by my best friend Harriet to do it and I thank Harriet. But then mid year 8 he started again and I was having issues with him. Then a few weeks ago he unblocked me on snapchat and started to text me. He lied to me a few times and I wasn’t ready to give him another chance. I gave him the chance to talk to me and he cleared the air with me. But then there are these people called dan and Theo who get my train home. And they weren’t being nice to me. So I sent streaks saying ugh why is he so rude to me. And then he thought it was directed to him. He unfriended me on snapchat again and I wanted to talk to him and explain. Then the next morning I asked my best friend Tamar to ask him to friend me back and then I could explain. I sent him a long paragraph. But I have her instagram on my phone and their conversation was disgusting. The things he said to her like lying and calling me hideous things was horrible. I had a one of my friends 13th parties as i’m in year 8 and he was there. He was so rude to me and made me cry. Then the next day I didn’t talk to him. Until I asked my friend jess for advice. She wrote me an amazing paragraph to send him and I sent it. He agreed to talk tomorrow at school. I will update on Thursday or when we talk on how its gone. This whole experience has told me that don’t listen to the haters as they will come back to you and want to sort it. Just listen to yourself. There will be updates on this and more blogs on other stories soon. Stay posted babes xo